FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
"Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a twelve step based fellowship of men and women who help each other to stay sober. They offer the same help to anyone who has an addiction to sex and/or 'love' and wants to do something about it. Since S.L.A.A.s are all addicts themselves they have a special understanding of each other and the disease. They know what the illness feels like—and they have learned how to recover from it through S.L.A.A." Excerpt from "Questions Beginners Ask" pamphlet.
SLAA membership requires a commitment to recovery and is available to all who need it. Willingness and empathy are the only prerequisites for a sex and love addict to join the fellowship. See the "contact us" to reach a current fellow in China.
S.L.A.A. groups are self-supporting, declining outside contributions. There are no dues or fees required to attend an S.L.A.A. meeting. Voluntary contributions from members are used for expenses such as rent. No one is ever obligated to make any donation at an S.L.A.A. meeting.
"Sobriety is the return of choice, sanity, and personal dignity which comes from surrender to sex and love addiction, followed by involvement with S.LA.A.'s Twelve Step Program of recovery. There are no absolutes for sobriety in S.LA.A. as individual patterns of sex and love addiction vary. However, each S.L.A.A. identifies for him/herself major addictive behavior which is personally relevant, and becomes "sober" by abstaining from this behavior on a daily basis." Excerpt from "Questions Beginners Ask" pamphlet.
An S.L.A.A. meeting may take one of several forms, but at any meeting you will find sex and love addicts talking about what their patterns of sex and love addiction did to their lives and personalities, what actions they took to help themselves, and how they are living their lives today. There is usually a time to share, a time to recognize milestones in sobriety, and a time to read literature relevant to a particular member's struggle.
If you are in Asia, check out the "S.L.A.A. Meetings in China" section of the website to see if there is a fellow or fellowship in your city. To join one, or to be invited to the China-wide WeChat group, please take the "Self-Assessment" which will automatically send us a notification. If you are not in Asia, check out the "Find a Meeting" section of the main SLAA website.
They will be there for the same reason you are there. They will not disclose your identity to outsiders. At S.L.A.A. you retain as much anonymity as you wish. That is one of the reasons we call ourselves Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
"A sponsor is an experienced, sober S.L.A.A. who has become seasoned in his/her new way of life, and is available to share his/her experience, strength and hope with an S.L.A.A. newcomer on an individual basis..." "...The relationship of sponsorship is based on mutual trust and may be terminated at any time by either the sponsor or the sponsee." Excerpt from "Questions Beginners Ask" pamphlet.
"A newcomer usually asks another sober S.L.A.A. if s/he will sponsor him/her. The prospective sponsor has the right to accept or to refuse, and/or may suggest another sober S.L.A.A. for this role whom s/he feels would be more suitable." Excerpt from "Questions Beginners Ask" pamphlet. Generally fellows able to sponsor people identify themselves at the end of meetings.
"Before they came to S.L.A.A., most sex and love addicts had already realized that they couldn't control their sex and love addiction. Sex and "love" had become a power greater than themselves. S.L.A.A. experience has shown that to achieve and maintain sexual and emotional sobriety, the sex and love addict needs to accept and depend upon another Power which s/he acknowledges is greater than him/herself. Some S.L.A.A.s choose to consider the S.L.A.A. group itself as the Power greater than themselves, while others choose to accept still different interpretations of this Power. Most S.L.A.A.s adopt a concept of God, as God may be understood by the individual him/herself." Excerpt from "Questions Beginners Ask" pamphlet
An Intergroup is a regional service group made up of representatives from local groups. The combined resources of several groups in an Intergroup provide effective and widespread outreach to those seeking help for sex and love addiction.
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Provides outreach and information to local meetings. Sponsors and organizes special meetings, retreats, or conferences. Elects and sends a delegate to the Annual International Business Conference (ABM). Maintains and staffs the telephone helpline. Hosts a website with up-to-date meeting lists, resources, and information about retreats and events. Orders books, literature, and coins for purchase by local meetings. Collects registrations and funds for retreats. Collects donations from local meetings and distributes to Fellowship-Wide Services.